Susan says:
My boyfriend and I (ages 22 and 21, respectively) have been officially
together for a little over 2 years. We are very much in love and
everything is perfect except for this one thing - we are of different
cultures and although he is loved and accepted by my family, its his
family that would have an issue with him dating someone that is not of
the same culture. As a result, he has never introduced me to his
parents. I understand that cultures differences may be tricky, but I
just don't see how this relationship can turn into anything further
unless I can meet his parents.
He says that they will not be tolerant of me and it will cause a lot of
issues in our relationship that could ultimately lead to its end, and he
doesn't get why I'm even trying to push the issue. Ive suggested being
introduced as 'just a friend' or even just casually bumping into his
parents 'randomly' and having him introduce me then, but he's still even
hesitant about that.
I know he's not 'ashamed' or 'embarassed' by me or anything like that
because he's introduced me to all of his friends, so I just dont know
what else I should/could even do about the situation.
Am I wrong for trying to push meeting his parents? Does anyone have any
ideas on what I could be doing to resolve this issue? Ive been talking
to our mutual friends about this issue, but no one can seem to find a
solution. Please let me know what you think about this situation or any
advice. Thanks!
The answer depends on what you want. If what you've got is enough for
you, let it go and accept it. However I suspect that ISN'T enough for
you. You will always have the worry that his family will at some point
intervene and end it. Are you prepared to live with at risk? Only you
can answer that question, and the answer determines what you should do
next.
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