Eva says:
I have always argued a lot with my grandmother, we just don't get along,
but it's never been anything serious. I love my granddad like I would
love a father - I don't have one, because he disappeared 12 years ago,
so I kind of consider my grandfather as a dad.
The problem is, recently the most important exams in my life have
started. My grandmom has been very unsupportive, always telling me how I
have already failed, that I don't study at all and such things that are
NOT true. I did my best and have amazing results on every single of my
tests. I have only 1 left. She never apologiesed for being so rude and
never congratulated me on the success I have.
My grandfather, on the
other hand, cannot understand how I can have a serious relationship and
I'm almost 20 years old, so it's perfectly normal. The man I date is the
son of his best friend and I can't see where the problem is. They
always buy me expensive presents as if they're trying to win me, but
they never ask whether I want/like them. I can't be more than 10 minutes
around them without starting an argument. What can I do?
This is not going to end well. You need to exclude your grandmother from
your life as she will blight your happiness, and insist on only seeing
your grandfather on his own if at all. I have severed relations with my
father, mother, sister and daughter, but I have no regrets because these
relationships were all dysfunctional and made me unhappy. Just because
they're blood relatives doesn't mean you owe them anything.
In your personal life, only maintain those relationships that build you
up and you can make a difference to. Ruthlessly exclude all those who
make you unhappy. You will not regret it.
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