Trinity says:
My husband and I have been married for about a year and 5 months. I
wasn't on facebook at the time but I just recently joined. My husband
has been on it for a while. So yesterday I was logging on and his page
was pulled up with a message box open and it was his EX that broke us up
when I was pregnant with his child because we had problems all thru my
pregnancy where he wouldn't come around etc.
But we are finally married
and she messages him out of the blue giving him her number. I got mad
about it and confronted him. He's mad at me saying I should not have
messaged her asking why she gave him her number and I should not be mad.
I was mad because this was an EX and I saw how they went on dates
behind my back ,would send naked picts and all that and all.
How should I have responded to this situation yahoo community? Should I
have acted like I didn't see it? or confronted a different way ?
Do I have a right to be mad? I felt disrespected, and like they thought I was stupid.
They girl said she saw that we were married but still thought it was okay to message him and try to reconnect.....
You're not imagining it - this is a highly unreasonable attitude from
the pair of them. You have done absolutely nothing wrong. You were
absolutely right to confront the pair of them. And it is absolutely NOT
alright for them to conduct any sort of communication behind your back.
It's time for an ultimatum. He can break all contact with her, or all
contact with YOU. If he refuses, the message is absolutely clear - HE
CANNOT BE TRUSTED. Do you wish to continue in a marriage with a partner
who is not prepared to give up on another woman for you, and is prepared
to use deceit to keep seeing her? If there is no trust there is no
relationship, only a dysfunctional mess.
It's better if it comes to it to admit you chose a guy not worthy of you
rather than face a lifetime of being lied to. Stand your ground, even
if that costs the marriage.
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