Living Life says
Almost a year ago I made the biggest mistake of my life; cheating on my
fiance/father of my children. I was afraid of commitment and was not
thinking right, but never mind why I did it, point is it was done. I
have realized how wrong I was and how much I have hurt him. I don't
ever want him to know that pain again, and I know that I will never do
this again because of that. I love this man more than my next breath,
and just want him to be happy, but I'm running out ideas of how to help
him. I've even tried telling him that he would be happier if he'd leave
me, and I've waived my rights to child support if he were to do so.
Can anyone give advice on how to help him?
There are three separate issues here. Firstly he needs to be at least
willing to forgive you - that will come first. Healing however will take
some considerable time, and you will need to be patient. It's a
consequence of your action and you will have to live with it for some
time - there is no quick fix. The third issue is trust - that will take
even longer and may never come back fully. Again this is a price you
will have to accept and pay. It's important not to keep going over in
your mind what you did as that will help neither of you. You can only
change what you do now. Focus on that, and if your mutual love is strong
enough, your relationship will survive.
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