Anonymous says:
There's this guy I talk to him everyday and its been 7 months, we met
online and in person once and we talk everyday. I thought he liked me
because we would talk on the phone for 3 hours and because whenever I
talked about guys he would get very jealous. He also trys to make me
jealous by showing me girls that like him. 2 nights ago he asked me if I
was talking to anyone and when I asked him why he assumed I was and
kept saying I was lying when I told him I wasnt, and its the truth I
only talk to him! Then he tried to play it off like he was only joking.
last night I told him how I felt about him and we got into a huge fight
b/c he wouldnt tell me how he felt and I kept saying I dont wanna talk
to him anymore if he didnt want anything out of it because id be wasting
my time. He pretty much told me he had no intention of dating me. Im
going crazy I cant stop crying I want him! i ruined everything and I
told him to lose my number we got in the biggest fight! ! WHAT DO I DO I
FEEL HORRIBLE
You DIDN'T ruin everything. There was never a proper relationship to
ruin in the first place - it was clearly dysfunctional from the start.
Everything about this encounter has FAIL written on it. You feel
horrible because you liked the guy and you are conscious that you could
have done things better. But even if you had, this is clearly a guy with
issues who was never ready to be in a relationship.
There is much more to relationships than having the hots for each other.
There has to be trust and kindness. These qualities are notably absent
from your encounter - it would never have worked. please take one very
important lesson from this - NEVER use jealousy to spice up a
relationship - it only poisons it.
Dry your tears, take some time out and move on. I'm afraid getting your
heart broken once or twice is kinda normal when you're searching for a
partner. Don't despair - there really is someone for everyone, but it
was never going to be this guy.
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