HjAnsJsJs says:
So i've been with my girlfriend for a while now. And we did break up
like 1yr ago, and we got back together she told me, she missed me soo
much and she was so sad. But anyways we've been together for along time
now. And recently i've noticed a lot of things that bug me about our
relationship. But before i do get into the details, i just want to
describe how i treat our relationship; okay so i really love her and i
feel a lot towards her. I comfort her in everyway, i be there for her
all the time and i compliment her every time she deserves one, sometimes
i do feel I'm giving her too much, but you guys/girls will know that
it's impossible to depart from someone who you are attached to. Anyways
the main thing which is happening is, so recently when we have been
chatting, we have been really high in love, and i mean really high. So
sometimes i do ask her stuff, like deep stuff and she tends to avoid the
question etc. and suspense the situation. Now the other day we had such
an amazing conversation and the next day she ignored me full on. I
really confronted her and asked her why you do this to a healthy
relationship, you are only departing me from you. Then after a lot of
asking her, she told me, she wanted to see how it would be without me. I
said how was it, she said boring. WTF boring, i thought she would say
she missed me ?. Anyways yesterday we had an amazing conversation, and
today she texted me she has a headache and she's going sleep (Hey I'm
going to sleep have a headache cya luv u (heart) (heart) (heart))
<that's the exact text. Before anyone does say anything i feel like
that she wants to depart or something. She used to express her love soo
much and now she doesn't as much. I confronted her that it hurts when
you don't talk and i miss you loads, and she said I'm sorry and i
promise i would do it again. She knows now that I get apparently mad if
she ignores me or something like that. But if i carry on giving her so
much attention, i know i will lose her. And if i ignore her so she can
feel about me, she will think I'm mad. Also if i get mad or if she
thinks that she will shut down Skype (what we normally talk on) and
decide to not talk and let me cool down. But the thing is what should i
do. I don't want to be needy and i really need to get this straight. I
need to do something, plz help and a true answer will help, i really
care and love her truly and I've told her this and i mean it. Honestly
kills me from inside. plz help ;'( p.s. can i do something that will
make her want me?
Please give me a tip on what to do. plus i did ask her has she lost
feeling for me? she said straight "No." and i then even asked her our
you sure she said "yep".????
You are obviously an intense person and prone to overthinking. You need
to be aware that can be a turn-off. That said, this doesn't necessarily
mean you're about to break up, you just need to be aware of it.
If this relationship is to survive there has to be trust. You cannot
from someone's mood determine what they're thinking or what's going on
in their heart. You have to TRUST the other person. I would recommend
this policy: Trust absolutely, but give it only one life. Believe
everything she tells you and tell her you will do so. However, if you
get absolute proof she has lied to you, it's over. You must also have
the same high standard of honesty
Trust gives the other person "room to breathe" - constantly asking for
reassurance will suffocate the relationship, so you need to believe and
let the other have moody days - just quietly be there for them on such
days.
Finally, remember all relationships are fragile and risky - there are no
guarantees - you need to accept this, it goes with the territory. Trust
and believe in the other person until or unless they prove themselves
unworthy.
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